Empty nest? Ten things you shouldn’t do when your kid leaves for university

Adjusting to your off-spring fleeing the nest and moving into university halls of residence is tough. Any parent that tells you that they have NEVER thought of doing ANY of the following as they wander around their empty nest is either lying or hiding the fact that they have actually done several!



Ten things you shouldn’t do in your empty nest when your kid leaves for University

1.       Extensive research on social media in order to detect serial-killer or sex-fiend tendencies amongst their new flat mates. I know that this sort of character trait is rarely openly revealed on Facebook but Mums have a 6th sense for this sort of thing and can tell a lot from a profile pic and a bio.

2.       Scour news reports for any sort of attack/fire/accident that could possibly involve your child. Message them to check that they are okay when you find a report of a three car pile-up on the outskirts of Edinburgh even though they are studying in Exeter and do not have a car.

3.       Send hourly messages/texts and panic when there is no reply after 30 seconds.

4.       Compile a playlist of songs that you listened to when you were pregnant and sit in their bedroom to listen to it.

5.       Repeatedly ask their younger siblings if you can log into their snap chat. You don’t know how to use it but suspect that this is where all the information that you want is hiding.



CCTV cameras

6.       Knock on the bedroom doors of all their flatmates asking for their mobile numbers and social media accounts for further research purposes.

7.       Install CCTV in your child’s room with a live feed relayed to your mobile.

8.       Invest in a tracking device which you hide in their mobile phone before they leave.

9.       Make up a nasty illness so that they feel obliged to come back home to be with you.

10.   Rent a room in halls yourself by faking qualifications and lying about your age. This requires considerable financial outlay as, in most cases, plastic surgery will be required.

These thoughts will pass! They’ll soon be back with a bag of dirty washing kicking up a fuss because you’ve rented out their bedroom!

And…….under no circumstances listen to ‘Slipping through my fingers’ by Abba!

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  59 comments for “Empty nest? Ten things you shouldn’t do when your kid leaves for university

  1. September 22, 2016 at 4:07 pm

    Thank goodness I’ve never felt tempted to try any of these things … though now I’m wondering if I’m too laid back …
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  2. September 22, 2016 at 4:29 pm

    I’ve got quite a few years until mine leave for Uni but OMG, its a terrifying prospect! I only hope I can remain sane and not participate in too much stalking. #ablogginggoodtime

  3. September 22, 2016 at 6:07 pm

    Love it! Although I’m shuddering at the thought of the kids going to uni. I can just imagine how tempted I would be to keep texting!
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  4. September 23, 2016 at 9:25 am

    ha ha.. xx My eldest will be leaving next year. As the time approaches I can see that she will be ready to fly the nest and we’ll be ready to let her stretch her wings. #ablogginggoodtime

  5. September 23, 2016 at 2:49 pm

    Such a brilliant post and im pinning it for future reference. I loved no.9, that is aparticularly dastardly trick! Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉
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  6. September 24, 2016 at 8:36 pm

    Oh now no:3 brings back memories. My mum used to contact me via Facebook and panicked if I didn’t respond quickly. #PicknMix

  7. September 25, 2016 at 8:07 pm

    Wonderful – not there for a while but I certainly know that these things have been done by mums wishing to check on safety and welfare. Rewind back several years and many of these options were not available. When we were younger, my mum made good use of the telephone and directory to track us down if we hadn’t called to say we had arrived somewhere! Not so good that she didn’t observe the time difference in New Zealand where we were staying with friends. A little call in the middle of the night soon knocked us into shape!
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    • September 26, 2016 at 6:29 pm

      Haha that’s brilliant. I can honestly say I have not done any of these…yet! Thanks for commenting XX

  8. Tracey Abrahams
    September 26, 2016 at 9:08 am

    Sounds like you have a rather severe case of Empty Nest Syndrome 😆

    • September 26, 2016 at 6:35 pm

      Yep – that’s the name for it. I haven’t resorted to these yet but the fact that I even thought them up says something!! Thanks for commenting. XX

  9. September 26, 2016 at 8:48 am

    Very funny. Scary that I can imagine myself doing all those things (maybe not the plastic surgery as it would cost a fortune to turn back tide for me!!). It must so hard to let go, i still have the teenage years to come arrrrh.

  10. September 26, 2016 at 11:26 am

    Haha, this will be me! I can’t imagine how I will feel, but I will probably start stalking them via the internet! #marvmondays
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  11. September 27, 2016 at 11:10 am

    haha grreat post! I do wonder what kind of mum ill be like once the kids are older! #MarvMondays

  12. September 27, 2016 at 11:59 am

    Great read! I can only imagine how it must feel when they go away, I can just imagine what it’s going to be like when my little one goes away haha #Marvmondays

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  13. September 27, 2016 at 12:40 pm

    Oh this made me laugh out loud – and cry a little too – almost where your emotions of funny and sad are too closely connected! Your last comment, though – just brilliant! Hope you’re ok? xx
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  14. September 28, 2016 at 2:37 pm

    This is brilliant! I laughed out loud at number 2 🙂
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes 🙂

  15. September 29, 2016 at 11:53 am

    Ha this will definitely be me in the future if they go to university 😉 The times goes way too quickly for my liking from the second they are born. Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix

    Stevie x
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  16. September 29, 2016 at 3:55 pm

    Sharon I am already guilty of no.3 when my eldest goes out in the evening, so it doesn’t bode well for me for next year when he does flee the nest. Jo x

  17. September 30, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    Haha – no 2 is the one I’ve started to do!! Thanks for commenting xx

  18. October 1, 2016 at 11:10 pm

    He, he! I can imagine a few of these things might be tempting in the first few weeks of the little ones (or not so little ones) leaving for uni. I’m dreading the day that it finally comes for us, I think it’ll be hard not to do some of these! Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays, great post. Emily

  19. October 12, 2016 at 8:16 am

    LOVE number 2 about scouring the news! Our daughter is 6 so this is a fair way off (but I know it’ll roll round too soon!) And number 2 (at least) will be me! #MarvMondays
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  20. Fee
    September 26, 2017 at 1:15 pm

    Haha. It’s totally acceptable to insist that they go to a Uni near home so you can visit/stalk all the time right?

    I can’t even bring myself to think about mine leaving home. I’ll be a complete wreck. #TweensTeensBeyond

    • September 27, 2017 at 8:18 am

      Preparation is important! Get some things in place for yourself so you are not so bereft when they go xxx

  21. September 26, 2017 at 4:03 pm

    We bring them up to fly the nest as strong, independent beings, and yet when they do… it crushes us! #TweensTeensBeyond
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  22. September 26, 2017 at 4:17 pm

    I laughed again at this because I do know people that have done this!! Promise it won’t be me! Even though my post this week may make you doubt that!!! #tweensteensbeyond

  23. September 26, 2017 at 6:08 pm

    Since dropping off my eldest last weekend, girlfriends have questioned my miraculous composure, to the point where I have started thinking I am an alien species among mothers. Aside from the fact we have been preparing for this moment for years, we both knew it was time for him to spread his wings and to be honest that isn’t even very far – just the other side of the country. We speak, we text and I look forward to seeing him when he comes back but for the moment I am happy because he is happy and that is all good with me. #TweensTeensBeyond
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    • September 27, 2017 at 8:21 am

      Lovely positive message Jo and I know you have lots of other things to focus on which is so important. I’m so glad that he is happy xxx

  24. September 26, 2017 at 7:27 pm

    OMG! ‘Slipping Through My Fingers’ has me in tears EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. and my kids haven’t even left yet!! #TweensTeensBeyond
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  25. September 27, 2017 at 12:15 am

    It’s so hard to see them fly the nest, isn’t it? I’m firmly of the opinion though that ignorance is bliss, especially when it comes to teens heading off to uni. At least it’s easier to stay in touch nowadays – my eldest went just before mobile phones became common, so our main contact was e-mail, or her Halls’ payphone. I’m not sure how we managed at all! #tweensteensbeyond
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    • September 27, 2017 at 8:23 am

      This is very true Mary! I am able to message/facetime/text as needed. And yes ignorance is bliss, I don’t want to know what is going on a lot of the time. xx

  26. September 27, 2017 at 9:45 am

    This really made me giggle , I suspect I will come up with many a plan on your list once the first born abandons us!!! #TweensTeensBeyond
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  27. September 27, 2017 at 8:22 pm

    Ha! Good list. I went through your list thinking “Not me, not me. not me”, but I know at least one will be me in the future. No 3 more than likely, although it will be less often. Maybe once a day. Frightening thought. At least you haven’t thought of hacking into the nearest CCTV system. Too far. #MMB
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  28. September 27, 2017 at 8:53 pm

    child 2 left home, we left town, child 3 left home, we left the country, child 4 and 5 left home, we moved countries still had to deal with empty nest, just in a different place and a different way from the norm lol #tweensteensbeyond
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  29. September 27, 2017 at 11:04 pm

    I love the spider catcher! (You should see the size of the spider my hubby just removed from our living room!). I can hardly imagine the thought of my kids leaving for uni, even though I often crave some peace from their fighting at the moment! I can imagine having to sit on my hands to try and resist looking things up on social media etc! #TweensTeensBeyond

  30. September 28, 2017 at 10:27 am

    I’d be tempted to rent a room in halls! And how can you stop yourself stalking them on social media? My eldest is now in year 6 and even at that stage, I find myself pouring over photos of her when she was a toddler, feeling very sentimental for those cute podgy years. Not sure how on earth I’ll cope when they leave home! Hope it’s all going really well. x #TweensTeensBeyond
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  31. September 28, 2017 at 11:11 am

    Wow that’s really great post for mothers of teens. My kids are very small yet to worry about these. But you have suggested very important points which a mother shouldn’t do. Thanks for sharing. I save these points for my later use. #Tweens Teens Beyond

  32. September 28, 2017 at 7:40 pm

    OMG I’m welling up already thinking of the lyrics of ‘slipping through my fingers….’!
    I’m so not looking forward to this stage but I know that it will be here before I know it. Fab post……I love the cctv camera in their rooom! #tweensteensbeyond

  33. Anan
    October 1, 2017 at 6:15 pm

    I’ve always had a little sniffle at “Slipping Through my Fingers” just anticipating what’s to come! I’m four years off all this, but already guilty of 3 and 5. They do suddenly seem to turn in Year 10, away from the family and straight into the arms of friends, particularly ones parents aren’t familiar with!! I guess you just have to trust them and keep the door wide open for when they inevitably foul-up. Anyway, a real empty nest is a daunting thought – like no longer doing the school run x 1,000. Fab post – it did make me laugh!

  34. Anna
    October 1, 2017 at 6:19 pm

    Sorry I mucked up! I’m Anna not Anan and here’s the hashtag #tweensteensbeyond

  35. Anna
    October 1, 2017 at 6:20 pm

    Sorry Anna not Anan
    And here’s the hashtag #tweensteensbeyond

  36. Anna
    October 1, 2017 at 7:00 pm

    Sorry Anna not Anan

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